Cricket.....that's a nice and honest post.......we almost always feel guilt "for fussin".
and we almost always are a better person when we don't.....which of course makes us feel good.....caregivers deserve to feel good and take time for themselves as Kitty noted.
(01-13-2016, 06:35 AM)Cricket Wrote: [ -> ] (01-12-2016, 09:52 PM)Kittycat Wrote: [ -> ]Great article, Popster. I think it is important for the caregiver to make time for themselves, too, if possible. Even if it's only once a week. I know that is not always Possible.
True dat Kittycat. A caregiver NEEDS to make time for themselves to keep their sanity.
I was the only one caring for my mom with no help. Having the health problems I have, it was so hard on my body having to get up every 5 mins. when she would call for me to do something. I started to find myself getting angry all the time because I was in pain so much. I hate myself now for fussin' at her when I would be hurting or tired. I hated being like that.
You have to find a way to take a break now and then.
Thank You All so much for your kind words and thoughts.I just came back from looking at a few nursing homes OMG what pits and these are suppose to be some of the better ones in my area, I have a few more to look at next week.
Sudsy
Sudsy.......those places are real eye openers......many of them are full of liars and thieves.....and I am not talking about the patients. If you can talk to the families of some of the patients you can sometimes get a more realistic picture of the place.
Definitely trust your intuition and don't compromise (too much).
(01-13-2016, 06:04 PM)Sudsy Wrote: [ -> ]Thank You All so much for your kind words and thoughts.I just came back from looking at a few nursing homes OMG what pits and these are suppose to be some of the better ones in my area, I have a few more to look at next week.
Sudsy
Thank You Popster,the last time I was in a nursing home was in the 80s when my mother in law had to go to one, thank God she only lived there for 1 month before she passed away she was only 62 died from lung cancer she owned a bar and smoked like a chimney to this day I miss her very much I can't say the same about my ex wife LOL.
Charon,
Thank You,the longer I am on your site and read what you have to say to people the more I realize that you are one hell of a gal.
(01-13-2016, 06:04 PM)Sudsy Wrote: [ -> ]Thank You All so much for your kind words and thoughts.I just came back from looking at a few nursing homes OMG what pits and these are suppose to be some of the better ones in my area, I have a few more to look at next week.
Sudsy
Some nursing homes I wouldn't want to put my dogs in they are so bad.
I thank the Lord above that the one my mom was in was fantastic. Expensive, but they really took care of the residents and always had lots of activities and field trips to the casino, WallyWorld (Walmart) and took them out to eat or play bingo. Always plenty to keep them busy. My mom loved it there, which made me feel better about having to put her in a home. I always swore I'd never do that to her, but when her health problems became more than I could handle at home, I had no other option. It's never an easy decision.
I hope you find a great one like we had.
(12-22-2015, 05:03 PM)Popster Wrote: [ -> ]to all our members:
I want to start a thread dedicated to caregiving. We have some real experts here at .org that could share their techniques and experiences. It is an important and demanding task that begs insight and suggestions. It can also be a trying experience at times.....so venting is allowed. We can all benefit from the posts....as there is a good chance that at sometime in our lives we may all be caregivers.
Please contribute your thoughts and feelings on this most important subject....knowing that all of us who read the posts will benefit.
When we are helping others we become less proccuppied with ourselves.....and the rewards can be remarkable.
Let me say in the topic Caregiving remember take care of those who are sick around you that need resources help or giving a bath because it wont be long when we ourselves may have a stroke cant speak nor be mobile to simply depend on another. Listen, try not to judge the other that looks and acts a hopeless I have meet many who've open my insight by hearing their story. Just because someone is homeless doesn't mean its their fault. I hear too many people call all homeless drunks or addicts well.
I saw a video of a young woman about 25 years old repeatedly hitting and old woman and kicking her while she was on the couch. She slapped her in the face, she tried to leave to get away but couldn't quite reach her wheelchair, broke my heart. I want to do so much more than I do for older people.
Judge not, lest ye be judged. This becomes easier to do the older I become. And once you have a family member that becomes ill, you will never look at sick or older people the same way again.Â
ONE day I'd like to donate more time to this thread. It is one of those things that you just can't write about in a few sentences for me, and I'm bound to get emotional, so I'll come back to it, as I think it's a great topic to address.
My sister was one of the last USA people to have polio...way back when....and although I was too young to be a real caregiver.......
I learned a lot about love and empathy watching my mother in action.....
Love and empathy.......they are two of the foundations required for caregiving.
Love is everything. All that is good and selfless in life stems from love. Â I'm sorry your sister had to go through that. I bet it made you More empathetic than most. Thanks for sharing.