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Thank you thank you! I don't post very often but I'm REALLY trying to change that. thanks for the welcomes!

Hey luckydate... Welcome Back.. You got great people here, the best wiling to offer advice and help on anything..

Have a blessed day..

Hi luckydate! I know you've been on here a while, but I'm newish and just saying "hello"! I'm pretty shy too, as well as introverted. I was soooo shy as a kid, I would never introduce myself to strangers, and would have pretty bad anxiety when I had to talk in public. My parents signed me up for a theater class in middle school and I can remember the horror I felt. I was sick to my stomach thinking about how I would have to get up in front of people. The thing was, I loved playing guitar, piano and singing, but I would lock up when people asked me to play or sing to them. I'm a bit better now, I still don't enjoy getting in front of people to talk, but I can do it if I have to. In my previous job, I had to stand up and discuss work with co-workers on jobs quite often, I remember my brain would just stop thinking because the anxiety would take over, sweating, nerves....ug. But, I can do it and kind of hide it, sometimes better than others. I still prefer to stay home and do my own thing, rather than being social, but I'm introverted and need that alone time. Having kids forces me out to socialize though. I would never hear the end of it from my parents as a kid, "just say hi", "smile, you look mad", "speak up"....I specifically remember in middle school a kid making fun of me because the teacher called on me and I wasn't loud enough for the teacher to hear...the bully kid started stuttering what I said to make fun of me being scared to speak up. Crazy how you remember things from your youth. As I mentioned, I'm better now and can hide it somewhat, but today my kid is having a party at school and I'm not exactly looking forward to having to chat with the other parents...not that I don't like them, they are nice and totally fine, but my anxiety starts up and I worry about not being able to hold a conversation...even though, I will, and I can...ug.

Anyway, I hear you. I've been shy all my life, and I know you wrote your initial post a while ago, but I am sensitive to shy people! Have you heard of the book "Quiet"? It's actually about introversion, but it's quite a good book and discusses how introverts are JUST as important in this world as people who are extroverted and have no fear of being out there! Pretty good read! Ok, time to get more coffee, it's going to be a long day! Peace!

(06-17-2016, 08:41 PM)Charon Wrote: [ -> ]I know this is difficult to believe, but I am a very shy woman.  

I became sick, quite suddenly and quite severely and I had my baby boy.  So, I crawled to my computer and researched everything I could.  Doctors gave up hope on me, but what do they know?  (But for Doctors of Law.  Of which I am one. LOL.)

I did cancer forums.  Chronic pain forums.  And I learned that so many of us are terrified to really share on a forum because forum members can be mean as snakes in the grass.  People want to be able to speak without being flamed. We have rules here that protect the members and the vendors from foul language and abuse.

And, secondly, I learned that when one hears the words: Lupus or cancer, that immediate brain fog takes over.  So, I can do research for the member.  Many of us are alone.  We are our own caregivers.  Most of what I do in running a forum involves Private messages, emails, phone calls.  

Not so much shows up on forums as to how close our forum family plans to remain.

You are quite welcome to be here.  I shall make a mental note of your being shy.  So we can bypass the first fifty posts in 100 days rule. k?

But, please, just feel comfortable.  Be yourself.  I like you already.  When the right post jumps up to say: Follow me, you know this subject!!  Then in that event, you may post.  If you are up to it.

K?  There are some of us whom read at forums yet cannot post.  I shall protect u from flaming and bad people to the best of my ability.

So, will the senior members, our moderator, Ice Wizard, our admin of steel, and all our long time members.

Relax.  Put your feet up.

When you are meant to post, you will know.  In the meantime, don't even worry about it.

Very glad to have u with us.

Charon-That was beautiful! Wonderful way of making her-him comfortable! It's so hard to find that kind of genuine compassion for one another! I feel extremely lucky to have found such a warm and loving family! 

Yes-please, I would love to help as well with anything I can, please reach out for anything at all!!

welcome to our tiny world!!

Hello! Welcome ❤️❤️❤️

Hello and Welcome!!

Hey Luckydate welcome back on board again. Why don't you try to be more interactive and post more often. We are full of interesting people and many potential friends may come to your attention in our forum . Not like other forums as one other member posted here.