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Wanted to tell my story. Why I have been gone. - wonder - 08-20-2019

I wanted to say hello again because I have not posted in a while. I have had so many things happen in my life that I have never had a time like this.  My family went  to see my son in the UK  where he is getting a grad degree at Cambridge. I am so proud of him because he had so many learning disabilities that when he was little I though he would never read!  While there I tore my Rotator Cuff but do not want to have it fixed because I don't think that surgery has a good success rate.
     I had had a lung biopsy done before I left because I have a lung infection and I have 2 incisions.  The incision that was made to put a camera in to see the best place to cut opened up. US doctors can't perscribe anything in the UK so I had to find a UK doc.
    We got back and as soon as I get the "hole' under my R arm to close I need to have major back surgery.
           Then the saddest thing happened to me ever. My parents are doctors and spent 12 years of their life in Nigeria starting in 1956 working in a hospital and Leperasy center there before coming to the US and setting up a practice. They are the best, kindest most wonderful people you would ever meet. They are old but they were team.  They got in the car and drive 6 hours to take care of me after my total knee replacment.
     I started having fevers from my lung infection and the came and too care or me.  They like feeling useful, I think. They are in their 80s
3 weeks ago my mom started throwing up dark bile and my sister who lives near her, and my dad  took her too the ER.  She was in terrible pain....so bad she could hardly talk. They were waiting for the surgeon  and he never came.  (As a nurse who worked in an Open Heart surgery unit) I can tell you that this does not suprise me.
  The next day the surgeon opened her up and said he small bowel looked black and he was afraid to cut anything because she would not survive....so he just üntwisted it".  When he did it "pinked up and the blood supply came back to it. 
      But her "numbers"  (BP, Heart Rate,  O2 Sat were not good).  For over a week we have been watching her numbers get worse and praying.  Finally, her kidneys q uit.  My dad was told she was only being kept alive by the the ventalator and drugs and would eventually die.  He made the decision to take her off the vent and see if she could make it on her on. 
  She died a week and a half ago.  We all went down there and picked out what she should where for the funeral and had the funeral.
      I feel so lost, I wake up every morning and feel like I see her or hear her. I miss her beyond what I can sayIt does not help that my shoulder is killing me and my back and R knee. For those of you who pray, lift me up because I have never struggled so much.
           I have never written so much and I did not know where to put this.  But I wanted you to know why I dissappeared for a while.
                   Take Care,  Wonder

RE: Wanted to tell my story. Why I have been gone. - happyvibe - 08-20-2019

Dear Wonder,

My heart breaks for you and i send you a lot of prayers for strength and hope during this difficult time. i know there are not enough sufficient words in the universe to make you feel better but know that there are strangers sending you good wishes and prayers. please take care.

RE: Wanted to tell my story. Why I have been gone. - tommy09 - 08-20-2019

I’m so sorry, Wonder. I lost my dad very unexpectedly some years ago when my kids were still little. And I was like, “Pop- you were supposed to help me raise these kids!” They liked him so much, but they were young and have limited memories of him. But I’m rambling a bit.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Prayers and strength to you.

RE: Wanted to tell my story. Why I have been gone. - willie33 - 08-21-2019

Dear Wonder

I am so sorry for your loss...Heart

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RE: Wanted to tell my story. Why I have been gone. - Wannabenormal18 - 08-23-2019

It breaks my heart hearing this. So sad. You have to stay strong. If you need any help, I’m sure everyone here would help you. This is so sad. I hope you can stay strong.

RE: Wanted to tell my story. Why I have been gone. - Lockes - 08-23-2019

Welcome back Wonder, even under these personal and harsh conditions. I said prayers for everyone you mentioned in your post....and that must have been a hard post to make, but you made it. Congrats on your brother's graduation that must have meant something special for the family. I know you and your family are getting lots of prayers from the members and even non members who have read your post. How is your father doing? You gave up a couple of things about them...they were a 'team'....and they drove 6 hours to help you after your knee replacement because they felt like they were feeling useful, thats what teams does. I hope your brother is taking this well, heck he did something I could never do ; )
I hope and pray what your body is going through you are seeing a Doctor on a regular basis and have specialists on call through your personal physician. 

I'm obviously not a Doctor, but your comment about tearing your rotator cuff and choosing not to have surgery....through sports injuries I had them both done....1, I had no choice, the other shoulder they let me decide so
I went ahead and had the right one done as well. I want to keep this short...ok, now that everyone knows I little older,  they were two of the best things I did in my life. Both shoulders feel like I'm in mid 20's that goes a long way at my age. All am saying is think about getting a second opinion ; )

I'm saying some prayers for you right now and I'm sure others are doing the same. Take care of yourself, you know what you have to do, as a Doctor said those exact words to me I just looked at him not sure what to say. He simply said ' Well what are waiting for ? '  

Take Care, Wonder

RE: Wanted to tell my story. Why I have been gone. - xsocalocalx - 08-23-2019

Good thoughts and prayers are with you. Glad your back. I've been away for a while also but your story really pulls at the heart strings. Stay strong!

RE: Wanted to tell my story. Why I have been gone. - Roses - 08-23-2019

Hi wonder,

I am so sorry for your loss & all the other challenges you're facing. Anytime you need to talk or vent we're all here for you. Hang in there wonder...(Hugs)

Rose

RE: Wanted to tell my story. Why I have been gone. - Laxfinity - 08-27-2019

Sending you courage, strength & prayers. I am so sorry for your loss.

RE: Wanted to tell my story. Why I have been gone. - Noelb98 - 09-02-2019

I am so sorry for your loss! My mother is in her 80’s and not doing well. I’m trying to prepare myself for when she leaves this earth but I know I never can. My faith helps gets me through. Sending prayers your way.