08-14-2023, 02:53 PM
(This post was last modified: 08-14-2023, 02:58 PM by Chinchillin777.)
Oh my lord that’s horrible! I hate to say it, but this kind of reminds me of the way my entire mother’s side of the family treated each other, they were well off, had “plenty to go around” financially, yet every last one of them (my mother, 2 other sisters, and a brother who lived with my grandma till she passed away because he was severely schizophrenic), yet every one of them treated one another like they were the hell’s pawn of Satan himself, with the worst part maybe being that my uncle, despite his glaring issues, was the ONLY nice/honest one, who consistently showed than he had a real conscience/empathy for those around them.
The rest of them all tried to “play” my poor, dementia addled grandmother like a fiddle, with one of the aunts having a background in law, and having snaked out nearly a million dollars in inheritance (just pure liquid asset, not even real estate or anything!) that was meant to go to all 4 siblings in equal parts, with the exception of my uncle who was meant to have a live-in aid and essentially unlimited financial aid for the rest of his life because he could not work or “maintain” very well around others.
The other aunt was a shameless drug addict (not my mother, and not the one who ended up with the lions share of what rightfully belonged to them all - again, in particular my uncle) the second aunt arguably acted even more abhorrently, lying to expensive “concierge” doctors who would make house calls, just generally malingering and claiming vague and difficult to diagnose symptoms like fibromyalgia, neuropathic spinal pain, “severe” migraines, etc. etc. etc. when in reality she was in nearly perfect health and had just decrypted a taste for Valium and Percocet, both of which my poor grandma was prescribed for many years later in life. This second aunt (Mary) grew tired of the “meager” prescriptions she was getting and felt she deserved more, so she just took it… right out of the dozens of bottles on my bedridden grandmother’s bedside.
Eventually her doctors took notice of the diminishing supply (which was substantial to say the least, prior to anyone else getting their hands on it) when they confronted my grandma in the hospital about her medication habits, she was at a loss for words and ended up crying because she thought she was losing her mind to the point where she really HAD taken such massive “overdoses”, when in reality she went almost totally without any medications for either issue(s) (insomnia, anxiety in the form of panic episodes, and severe rheumatoid arthritis that left her bed/wheelchair bound), and in reality the culprit was my greedy aunt who managed to pocket close to 600 norco/Percocet and almost a thousand Valium!!!
It got so bad that they eventually “cut off” my grandmother while she was dying in a hospital bed, her last days/hours spent in agonizing pain and fear because of her own daughter’s wickedly selfish “habits”. The very same aunt also lead me to believe that she was in fact the primary beneficiary of the will and the arbitrator of distribution of assets so to speak, promising me a comfortable life and nice apartment/townhouse downtown… come to find out she never stood to inherit anything because she was already on disability, unemployment, welfare, food stamps, etc., you name it she was happily accepting said “aid” from the government and had nothing to do with my grandmas last will & testament, and she’d just been trying to sway my sympathies / entice me enough to come life with her/take care of her like I was the maid until “one day” I could have what I was supposedly “hers” (which was virtually nothing at all…)
And all the while, all three of them and even my grandmother would sit around and gossip and tell nasty stories about each other, all vying for the “limelight”, with the basic philosophy that “only the squeaky wheel the grease”.
I am/was so disgusted with all of them that I totally cut ties with that side of my family, and it’s been over a decade since I’ve spoken to any of them (sadly my uncle died in his early 60s from a lifetime of heavy-duty first generation antipsychotics, tryng to control his vivid hallucinations, but failing to do so and ultimately damaging his liver, kidneys, and heart beyond hope of repair.
I still cannot believe what your own siblings did to you though, as you are quite clearly far sicker than all of them combined ever were (again, barring the severe schizophrenia in my uncle), and to leave you with what I’m sorry to say has been such a meager monthly allotment, even to very minimalistic and self sufficient individuals out there (inflation sure can make it doubly as bad too), you’re one of the kindest and most thoughtful people I’ve ever encountered, and to think that they could allow you to live in such misery, to the point where you’re almost welcoming a peaceful end is just despicable. Some people truly have no conscience/soul left to lose…I’m so terribly sorry
The rest of them all tried to “play” my poor, dementia addled grandmother like a fiddle, with one of the aunts having a background in law, and having snaked out nearly a million dollars in inheritance (just pure liquid asset, not even real estate or anything!) that was meant to go to all 4 siblings in equal parts, with the exception of my uncle who was meant to have a live-in aid and essentially unlimited financial aid for the rest of his life because he could not work or “maintain” very well around others.
The other aunt was a shameless drug addict (not my mother, and not the one who ended up with the lions share of what rightfully belonged to them all - again, in particular my uncle) the second aunt arguably acted even more abhorrently, lying to expensive “concierge” doctors who would make house calls, just generally malingering and claiming vague and difficult to diagnose symptoms like fibromyalgia, neuropathic spinal pain, “severe” migraines, etc. etc. etc. when in reality she was in nearly perfect health and had just decrypted a taste for Valium and Percocet, both of which my poor grandma was prescribed for many years later in life. This second aunt (Mary) grew tired of the “meager” prescriptions she was getting and felt she deserved more, so she just took it… right out of the dozens of bottles on my bedridden grandmother’s bedside.
Eventually her doctors took notice of the diminishing supply (which was substantial to say the least, prior to anyone else getting their hands on it) when they confronted my grandma in the hospital about her medication habits, she was at a loss for words and ended up crying because she thought she was losing her mind to the point where she really HAD taken such massive “overdoses”, when in reality she went almost totally without any medications for either issue(s) (insomnia, anxiety in the form of panic episodes, and severe rheumatoid arthritis that left her bed/wheelchair bound), and in reality the culprit was my greedy aunt who managed to pocket close to 600 norco/Percocet and almost a thousand Valium!!!
It got so bad that they eventually “cut off” my grandmother while she was dying in a hospital bed, her last days/hours spent in agonizing pain and fear because of her own daughter’s wickedly selfish “habits”. The very same aunt also lead me to believe that she was in fact the primary beneficiary of the will and the arbitrator of distribution of assets so to speak, promising me a comfortable life and nice apartment/townhouse downtown… come to find out she never stood to inherit anything because she was already on disability, unemployment, welfare, food stamps, etc., you name it she was happily accepting said “aid” from the government and had nothing to do with my grandmas last will & testament, and she’d just been trying to sway my sympathies / entice me enough to come life with her/take care of her like I was the maid until “one day” I could have what I was supposedly “hers” (which was virtually nothing at all…)
And all the while, all three of them and even my grandmother would sit around and gossip and tell nasty stories about each other, all vying for the “limelight”, with the basic philosophy that “only the squeaky wheel the grease”.
I am/was so disgusted with all of them that I totally cut ties with that side of my family, and it’s been over a decade since I’ve spoken to any of them (sadly my uncle died in his early 60s from a lifetime of heavy-duty first generation antipsychotics, tryng to control his vivid hallucinations, but failing to do so and ultimately damaging his liver, kidneys, and heart beyond hope of repair.
I still cannot believe what your own siblings did to you though, as you are quite clearly far sicker than all of them combined ever were (again, barring the severe schizophrenia in my uncle), and to leave you with what I’m sorry to say has been such a meager monthly allotment, even to very minimalistic and self sufficient individuals out there (inflation sure can make it doubly as bad too), you’re one of the kindest and most thoughtful people I’ve ever encountered, and to think that they could allow you to live in such misery, to the point where you’re almost welcoming a peaceful end is just despicable. Some people truly have no conscience/soul left to lose…I’m so terribly sorry