Oh What A Mess

[Rafterman]

Greetings all...

Everything has been going as good as it can be. ii went to the doctor with her and got her a script for Antabuse to help her keep off that damn Tequila. Since she is already on Zoloft the doctor also gave her a script for Alprazolam but she is still determined not to want to use any Benzo.

All in all she is doing better as long as she can keep on this route and stay off the alcohol.

she has another appointment with nher Psychologist this Friday so we will see what happens there.

I know she will NEVER get over this but she needs to honor her son and move on. Not forget but just move on with her life as I know that's what her son would have wanted.

I know easier said than done..

Peace All

Fury

Wonderful to hear, Fury. The situation is definitely moving in the right direction. Even if she won't take the ALP at this time, she has obtained the script for it. Antabuse is a hard way to go to come off of alcohol, but it does work. It is usually prescribed when it is absolutely imperative that a person get off of it. Its obvious that the doc is taking things seriously. I wish that he would reconsider the Zoloft and put her on a SSRI instead, but that is his call, of course. At least he is trying to cover the excitatory effects of the Zoloft with the ALP, though, It sounds like everything is starting to come together. You make a hugely important observation when you say that it is what her son would have wanted. So important that she realizes that. Nothing will ever totally take the pain away, put recognizing that her son would want her to be at peace can at least add a tiny bit of comfort. Like you say, its all easier said than done, but great to hear that there is movement in a positive direction. God bless.  RM

Hey RM, maeve and Naomi and all else who read this and provide any type of advice...

IT'S MUCH APPRECIATED!!!

I figure now that she has the Antabuse we will take things one day at a time. Sometimes one hour or even minute at a time when she has a bad day. I know being diagnosed with PTSD sometimes it's just making it through to the next minute iz a challenge.

She is strong and does realize how upset her son would be with her if he knew she started drinking again (something tells me he does know if you believe) and I always try and remind her of what her son would have wanted for her.


Time does NOT heal all wounds but I know if she can stay off the alcohol she can learn to move on and live with it. Not forget but honor her son by living the rest of her life to the fullest she can. She is always going to have her bad days but without the alcohol she can get through them with the help of her family and friends and all the love and support she iz getting from them.

RM with her being on Zoloft and still refusing to take any type of Benzo I did make a comment about the SSRI treatment you suggested but her doctor wants to stay this course of meds for the time being.

Not sure if I mentioned this before but she is also a cancer survivor and does use MM. This does help her to take the edge off when she is having a bad day so if that works for her since she refuses to take any Benzo's I am all for it. With having PTSD myself I know MM sure helps me from time to time when the Benzo's I take don't quite do the trick.

She is still learning how to deal with all this and trying to find out what combination of things provides her the best relief. Medication, meditation etc since everyone's body reacts different.

I will keep you all posted and thanks again.

Have a blessed day

Peace All

Fury

Thank you for the continuing updates, Fury. I do feel somewhat better knowing that she is making use of MM. I think that she will soften up on her stance against the benzo's eventually. I am glad that you brought up to the doc to possibility of the SSRI in place of the Zoloft. Even if he respectfully shot it down, he may come back around to the idea later. As I said in a previous post, the best thing that he did was give her the script for the benzo, even if she won't fill it. It tells me that he is working with you. Some counselors are quick to choose a treatment modality for a client and then let the thing run on auto-pilot. They are afraid to jump in and tweak things. Glad to see that this guy is not into one-size-fit-all, cookie cutter psychology. My best to you both.  RM