Oh What A Mess

[reilli]

Hi Fury,
I'm so very sorry for your gf's tragic loss. Losing a child especially an only child is just so awful most people can't begin to imagine. My mom lost my adopted sister and she was out of her mind with grief for months. M's room was shut and my mom couldn't even go in there (that was where my mom found her body). Finally with the support of family and friends she was ready to let go and let others clean out M's room.

But everyone grieves differently - some people leave their deceased child's room the same way forever because they want to leave the memories. Others want to move on and box everything up. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer since for each it is different. I think I would defer to the psychologist's opinion.

I know you must feel so helpless, it's so hard to know how to act and react when you can't really understand truly what someone is going thru. I wonder if going to a support group for parents who have lost children would help if there is something like that in your area?

Thank you for keeping the group updated and all my best to you and her.  
reilli