03-02-2018, 06:25 PM
(This post was last modified: 03-02-2018, 06:56 PM by Blockhead59.)
Fireplaces, I cannot thank you enough for your post. I read every word of the thread. I have no idea how I missed it. (Well, yeah, nothing surprises me. lol)
My DD is 26, thank god. If she were 16 again???? Sheesh! It's tough being a mommy with a child that age, especially one who appears to be as independent (meant in the best possible way) as your DD.
To your point about mishearing, lol: My daughter may occasionally leave out a detail or two. I actually asked her and she said that the therapist may have said, "if the therapist was working with my DD and myself at the time." BIG difference. Even if that were the case back then, I would have taken her home. DD and I have been joking excessively, laughing hilariously about some of the crazy parents of some of her friends, and how I would never have left her anywhere she didn't want to stay. (Never understood, for instance, why parents have sleepovers and expect the kids to immediately turn off their excitement at 12 am and go to sleep. And when that doesn't happen, the parents start freaking out and yelling. What did you expect??).
Bottom line is I am satisfied that I picked her up when she wanted to come home.
I'm going to jump on your thread to discuss your DD. You sound like a great mommy and your DD sounds like a great, smart, motivated kid!
Much, much appreciation again for posting!!
Thanks for your two cents, greaseman! Yes, she did it often, but I always pushed her to take risks letting her know she had a safety net. So, now she's about to turn 26, and her anxiety is through the roof, just broke up with BF of 3 years. Her therapist did help her to see that she does attach herself to people bc of her anxiety, that she needs a safety blanket. Even if her therapist and I were working together back in the day, like I said to Fireplaces, I would have brought DD home if she asked. I believe she's going to get some AD, which I'm cool with now, bc she's old enough to make that decision.
My DD is 26, thank god. If she were 16 again???? Sheesh! It's tough being a mommy with a child that age, especially one who appears to be as independent (meant in the best possible way) as your DD.
To your point about mishearing, lol: My daughter may occasionally leave out a detail or two. I actually asked her and she said that the therapist may have said, "if the therapist was working with my DD and myself at the time." BIG difference. Even if that were the case back then, I would have taken her home. DD and I have been joking excessively, laughing hilariously about some of the crazy parents of some of her friends, and how I would never have left her anywhere she didn't want to stay. (Never understood, for instance, why parents have sleepovers and expect the kids to immediately turn off their excitement at 12 am and go to sleep. And when that doesn't happen, the parents start freaking out and yelling. What did you expect??).
Bottom line is I am satisfied that I picked her up when she wanted to come home.
I'm going to jump on your thread to discuss your DD. You sound like a great mommy and your DD sounds like a great, smart, motivated kid!
Much, much appreciation again for posting!!
(02-23-2018, 06:40 PM)thegreaseman Wrote: Personally, this seems a bit absurd. People usually aren't super feeble. Anxiety stems from other places. I seriously doubt that expressing some discipline in the household will not cause anxiety. Also a therapist shouldn't be shifting blame onto others. Just my two cents. Did this happen often?
Thanks for your two cents, greaseman! Yes, she did it often, but I always pushed her to take risks letting her know she had a safety net. So, now she's about to turn 26, and her anxiety is through the roof, just broke up with BF of 3 years. Her therapist did help her to see that she does attach herself to people bc of her anxiety, that she needs a safety blanket. Even if her therapist and I were working together back in the day, like I said to Fireplaces, I would have brought DD home if she asked. I believe she's going to get some AD, which I'm cool with now, bc she's old enough to make that decision.