03-07-2018, 11:26 PM
Hey BH,
I agree with all that has been said by other responders. Her therapist sound like he is very misled and his advice is nonsense. Whatever he calls his method (the "tough love" approach, the "band-aid" approach, the "self soothe" approach, etc) he should know that none of that works against anxiety. That is like telling an anxious person to "just get over it". Very bad advice. Almost criminal, particularly since your daughter has registered high levels of anxiety since age 4. This isn't something that he can file under "hysterical teenager". Treating her condition is a process and he may just be too lazy to do it correctly. Any chance that you can ditch him and move on to someone else? For now, know that you did precisely the correct thing. Warm regards, RM
I agree with all that has been said by other responders. Her therapist sound like he is very misled and his advice is nonsense. Whatever he calls his method (the "tough love" approach, the "band-aid" approach, the "self soothe" approach, etc) he should know that none of that works against anxiety. That is like telling an anxious person to "just get over it". Very bad advice. Almost criminal, particularly since your daughter has registered high levels of anxiety since age 4. This isn't something that he can file under "hysterical teenager". Treating her condition is a process and he may just be too lazy to do it correctly. Any chance that you can ditch him and move on to someone else? For now, know that you did precisely the correct thing. Warm regards, RM